As to your second question, it is a matter of taste but I typically try for similar sag front and rear.
To the first question, I usually use a jack to control the dropping of the front end. Without something to control it there is a tendency for it to drop much too far when you loosen those bolts. If you don't have a jack or a means to control the dropping, you can loosen one side at a time, You might have to do each side more than once, going back and forth because you might not be able to slide it all the way in one move if you do each side separately. That depends on how far you are moving it.
It is important to properly torque the triple clamp bolts around the fork tubes, especially the lower clamp. I don't remember what the specs are for the Griso, but for USD forks it is usually around 20 ft/lbs.